Gay and Mennonite
March 18, 2015 - Picnic Time
On a Saturday in March, a Allegheny Mennonite Conference met in Springs, Pennsylvania, to establish a predestine of Hyattsville Mennonite Church. A decade earlier, a Maryland assemblage had been rigourously “disciplined” for usurpation happy and lesbian members. Now, there were 3 resolutions on a ballot: let Hyattsville behind into a contention as a full member; mislay Hyattsville from a contention altogether; or, if no agreement could be found, disintegrate a conference.
When a Mennonite church gets called out for a conduct, that visualisation comes from a peers. As of 2010, roughly 296,000 Mennonite adults lived in a United States, yet a tiny Christian description is damaged adult into several dozen slip organizations and church bodies. These tend to be decentralized and democratic: Church member opinion on all from budgets to use projects and summer camp.
They also opinion when they wish to retaliate other churches. In 2005, when Hyattsville was disciplined, a church had already been welcoming happy members for scarcely dual decades. But other congregations in a organizing physique they go to, a Allegheny Mennonite Conference, felt like things had reached a violation point. A Pennsylvania pastor, Jeff Jones, motionless to emanate a grave complaint.
“Hyattsville had an active method to homosexuals, that was we was for, we didn’t have a problem with it,” Jones said. But when a church “started putting active, practicing homosexuals in positions of leadership, as member in voting bodies here during conference—that became some-more formidable for me to take.”
For a final 10 years, member from Hyattsville have not been authorised to opinion during contention meetings. Its members have not been means to offer in leadership, and a pastor, Cindy Lapp, was put underneath review. Even so, they kept coming.
Since a initial Mennonites arrived in America from Germany in 1683, a description has left by many schisms, mostly over issues of tradition and modernity. At one time, it was buttons vs. eyehooks on blouses, and possibly women should have to wear bonnets; some-more recently, it’s been women’s care in a church and acceptance of those who brand as LGBTQ. Each time a apart happens, a new chronicle of a faith is created, while an comparison chronicle is recorded as if in amber—even now, many people associate Mennonites with anachronisms like horses and buggies, when in reality, this kind of normal lifestyle is usually followed by roughly 13,000 American adults, called Old-Order Mennonites. (People mostly upset Mennonites with a Amish, too; nonetheless both groups are partial of a Anabaptist tradition, definition that they baptize believers as adults rather than infants, Mennonites were historically supporters of Menno Simons, a 16th-century preacher.)
Now, Mennonites are wrestling with a same questions faced by other churches opposite a country, done all a some-more formidable by their heritage: How should a true change tradition and complicated life? How should scripture surprise people’s understandings of same-sex relationships? And when members of a description disagree, how should they find their approach forward?
For a Allegheny Mennonite Conference, these questions culminated in a choice: Either change together notwithstanding differences, or stop to exist.
I. Sing a Story #45: “Calm me, Lord”
Springs Mennonite Church is a sincerely plain residence of worship: tall, pitched ceilings; wooden pews; a integrate of stained-glass windows toward a behind of a sanctuary. But for all a plainness, a church has unusual acoustics.
The Allegheny Conference started a assembly there with song—a executive partial of Mennonite worship. A smiling lady named Naomi led a assemblage by rounds of “The Wonderful Grace of Jesus” and “Come Thou Fount of Every Blessing,” conducting a verses with floating, studious arms. Without being asked, a organisation sang in ideally offset four-part harmonies, a common component of Mennonite worship. Roughly 150 pastors and lay leaders from Maryland, Delaware, Pennsylvania, and West Virginia simply filled a church. Together, they resolved their opening hymns: “Calm me, Lord, as a we calmed a charge … Let all a tumult within me cease.”
Although a morning’s bulletin was ostensible to be apart from a afternoon’s opinion about Hyattsville, many of a talks had a forked theme: unity. The clergyman from Springs, Eric Haglund, gave an opening oration on Acts 15, that describes a legislature reason by Paul, Barnabas, and some of a Jewish elders in Jerusalem. Paul and Barnabas were perplexing to convince a Jews that circumcision was not required for salvation.
“We should not make it formidable for a Gentiles who are branch to God,” Paul said. “For a law of Moses has been preached in each city from a beginning times and is review in a synagogues on each Sabbath.”
Listening to a sermon, it was transparent that Haglund was perplexing to make an argument, potential yet it was in scripture. “In Acts, they found their approach by disagreement,” he said. “We see that a really hint of a gospel could be derailed over a theological debate.”
A Mennonite clergyman from Ohio, Myron Weaver, afterwards spoke to a organisation about his use with homosexuality in church communities. He told a story of attending Maple Grove Mennonite Church in Hartville, Ohio, in his teenagers and examination a family who was partial of a church bargain with a explanation that their son was gay. This was in a 1970s, when many Americans didn’t indispensably know many about homosexuality, yet he pronounced members of a assemblage didn’t conflict with fear; instead, they offering prayers.
“When people are vulnerable, regardless of what a conditions competence be, we as humans contingency mostly offer adore and grace, even if in fact we competence not understand,” Weaver pronounced to a group. “Safe places, protected churches, concede people to be vulnerable. The problem I’m finding, though, is that there appears to be fewer and fewer protected churches.”
In his purpose as a pastor, he said, he has mostly encountered church members who are perplexing to figure out what it means to be gay—or to have a happy family member. Once, he invited a organisation of 10 church members to his residence to pronounce about this topic. As one lady spoke, “she started to shake, and shortly she was sobbing, and shortly she fell off of her chair, and she retained ahold of a carpet, and she simply cried out, ‘I have attended my church for 35 years, and we can't find a protected place to pronounce to anyone about my happy son.’
“For those who explain to be supporters of Jesus today, we, too, contingency arrangement a heart of God to a extrinsic in a culture,” Weaver said.
He pronounced he famous that there competence be theological disagreements over a emanate of homosexuality in a church. He spoke about a apart that happened in his home church in 1954: Members disagreed about a suitable kind of buttons for women’s dresses. “It seems flattering absurd today,” he said, yet splits like this occur “because for generations, families have been displaying that when we disagree, we simply travel away.”
Since 2005, 9 churches in a Allegheny Conference have done a choice to travel away—mostly over a emanate of women’s care in a conference. Currently, a contention is led by a woman, Donna Mast, and many of a churches that left over this emanate did so before she became a heading minister. “Do we take it personally? No we don’t,” she told me. “I grew adult with a bargain that women should not be in rural care positions. we ran from a call that we was intuiting from God. we ran as tough as we could, until a day when we motionless that it was some-more formidable to be ostracized from God than to follow God into areas where we didn’t know where God was leading.”
Mast is partial of a care legislature that invited Weaver to speak. “I frequently remind people that people with whom they remonstrate with are also people who adore God, and who are doing their really best to follow Jesus,” she told me. But as homosexuality and happy matrimony have turn a bigger partial of American enlightenment and politics, Mast said, “I consider it’s been treacherous to a church. There are those that would ask that we not let multitude expostulate a decisions, when maybe multitude is indeed pushing us to a need to do a scriptural and theological reflections together some-more carefully.”
But even with such clever nudging from a contention leader, members we spoke with didn’t seem assured after a morning’s sessions that a contention would stay together. Even bill discussions were tentative, full of phrases like “if we pierce forward” and “depending on what happens…” Nobody knew possibly there would be a contention left to spend income by a day’s end.
II. Hymnal, a Worship Book #575: “Precious Lord, Take My Hand”
During lunch, many people headed to a church groundwork to eat, yet a few milled about in a sanctuary. The former clergyman of a Cornerstone Fellowship during Mill Run, Jeff Jones, stayed upstairs to pronounce with me, as did a church’s stream pastor, Steven Olivieri. Jones was a clergyman who instituted a fortify opposite Hyattsville in 2002, after a church brought an plainly happy delegate, Larry Miller, to a contention meeting. Eventually, a church was censured for not complying with a admission of faith used by Mennonite Church USA, a inhabitant classification that Allegheny Conference belongs to. In a territory on “family, singleness, and marriage,” it states: “We trust that God intends matrimony to be a compact between one male and one lady for life.”
Mennonite Church USA, has seen disappearing membership over a past half decade—a dump of roughly 16,000 adult members and 45 congregations, or 15 percent of a members. This doesn’t indispensably exhibit what’s going on in a description as a whole. According to 2010 investigate by Donald Kraybill, a highbrow during Elizabethtown College, American Mennonites go to roughly 60 opposite organizing bodies, and some of a some-more normal groups are flourishing fast since of their high birth rates.
But via a denomination, there’s tragedy over what it means to be a Mennonite in 2015. Jones told me that “the Mennonite church has always noticed itself as counter-cultural. Our nation goes to war, we reason adult assent signs.” Although happy matrimony is now authorised in 34 states, and a Supreme Court will presumably emanate a preference on same-sex matrimony by mid-summer, “generally speaking, we perspective homosexual function as sin,” he said.
In general, “the Mennonites can be clanish,” he continued. “Historically, that was survival. The broader difficulty is Anabaptist. They came out of glow and brimstone—all a other churches in a Reformation persecuted Anabaptists. Lutheran, Reformed or Calvinist, and Catholic—they all burnt Mennonites during a stake. To survive, they were not partial of organizations as many as they were groupings of families, and that became a core of their witness.”
Even so, there’s an unavoidable feedback loop between how Mennonites see homosexuality and how it’s discussed in American enlightenment some-more broadly. Jones concurred that fundamentalist Christians—including Southern Baptists and other devout groups that are outspoken on a emanate of same-sex marriage—have shabby Mennonites’ views.
“To me, a scriptures contend that people who confirm to actively use [homosexuality] are not to be within a church a same approach as someone who has tendencies toward it,” Jones said, expressing a perspective common by other regressive Christian leaders. “I consider we all have bent toward several sins. We confirm to possibly use these things or not practice.”
Jones himself was lifted a Presbyterian and consecrated as a clergyman in 1976 as partial of a organisation called a Evangelical Church Alliance. In 1995, he was asked to be a clergyman during Mill Run, a tiny Mennonite church nearby Altoona, Pennsylvania. He pronounced he favourite a village march of his adopted denomination. “I’m really connectionally oriented—committed to a conference,” he said. “We don’t have a priest, or bishops, as many churches do. The congregations decide.”
This clarity of community: That’s because being in a contention matters, he said. “I’ve seen too many eccentric churches … go off and do bizarre things. We need to have a certain grade of interconnectedness to keep us all Mennonite—to keep an identity.”
This is a small ironic; after all, Jones was a one who started a fortify routine opposite Hyattsville, that is because a contention was deliberation dissolution. “To me, contention is really important, yet not some-more critical than a difference, during this point,” he said. “All of us have been watchful for Hyattsville to repent, and they haven’t. We’re all reluctant—we’d rather be together.”
When a initial censure was brought opposite a Hyattsville in 2002, Larry Miller offering to step down from his position as a deputy in a conference, yet his associate churchgoers resolutely and kindly told him that they wanted him as their delegate, no matter a consequences. And when same-sex matrimony became authorised in Maryland in 2013, a assemblage had a contention about possibly they wanted ceremonies to take place during their church.
“I suspicion there would be some-more people saying, ‘No, we shouldn’t do it, it will get us in trouble,’” pronounced Cindy Lapp, a conduct clergyman during Hyattsville. “But what we listened was, ‘Well, we’ve already been in trouble. These are people in a congregation. Of march we’re going to marry them.’”
By that time, Hyattsville had already left by a possess time of transition—and division—on a position toward homosexuality. In a mid-70s, 4 families from Hyattsville pennyless off and founded an Anabaptist “house church,” that met in a revolution of vital bedrooms in a a Adams Morgan area of Washington, D.C. John Swarr, one of a first members of a church, pronounced a organisation had wanted a village that was some-more concordant with civic life. In part, he said, a “house church is done adult of people who have come from … somewhere else that was not so good, that they wanted to get a ruin divided from. But they were still traffic with a devout something in their life,” he said. Starting in a early 1980s, this enclosed happy men.
When some of a members of a residence church—including a happy man, Jim Derstine—expressed an seductiveness in attending Hyattsville, a suburban church started a yearlong, committee-based review into a doubt of happy membership. In 1986, by a opinion of 94 percent, a assemblage supposed Derstine. The clergyman during a time, Robert Schreiner, went to Allegheny Conference to plead a vote, yet a contention supervisor concluded that it was a matter for a assemblage to decide, not a conference.